The Importance of surrounding yourself with exceptional people is priceless. In all the reading I have done in grief groups, grief articles, grief books and more, the one thing that stands out with the brightest light, is the advice people give that you will need to make some changes in whom you allow in from that point forward.
As I look back on the time since my great guy left this earth there was an immediate letting go of some people I knew who showed their collective asses. They did things that were absolutely disgusting either to me emotionally through social media, or horrors done in public in a place where people stared.
It isn’t easy to let go of people; I know this, but when what they have to say is abusive, it’s a lot easier.
You can do it.
You actually will feel better when they are gone.
They are not your friends because your friends would never treat you that way.
Dump them, okay let them go easily, whatever just do it.
You will see those who love you, those who are loyal to your friendship, those who want to help you, they don’t leave. As time goes by, they may not show up as often, but believe me they are still there.
Three of my newest friends are women I found friendship with two different ways. One is a younger widow whose name was sent to me by mutual friends. The other two I found in a grief group online and the connection is tight.
They also understand what grief is, what it does to us, and they will reach out when you need them to do that.
Then there are the new friends who will seek you out because they have warm hearts, and they want to be part of your growing circle. Once you delete the bad ones the wonderful ones have more room and they will show up.
Over the past several weeks a recent friend showed up, and she gave me vital legal information I needed to deal with a situation I needed help with, and I call her an emotional lifesaver to me right now.
Then a social media friend helped me greatly by asking her father, who is a very well-known veterinarian, give me a 2nd opinion for my sweet dog, and this brought me great relief.
I love my family; however, they live 2 days away and I don’t burden them with my grief. Good and loyal friends do not mind being burdened by it and they will stick it out.
They are worth their weight in gold.
The best thing that will happen is that you move forward. You will find yourself feeling better. You will mourn, you will grieve, but you also will have a tremendous support system that you did not have before.
I have read your feelings about friends and family who ignore you. I have read your sad words. I have read about your loneliness and I promise you it doesn’t have to stay that way.
Take action. Do the work. Make the changes and do not feel guilty. Letting go of people who are mistreating you is a marvellous thing, and they may not even realize it unless you tell them.
I have told people that I need to move forward from them because they have already moved forward from me. Believe me, they won’t care.
One more time, the new friends you make and those who stick it out with you are worth their weight in gold. You will be so emotionally wealthy.